If there is one word that has made the biggest difference to my life in 2015, it is ‘forgiveness’.
Earlier in the year, I started a deliberate process to discover all of the areas of my life and past that I have not truly and deeply come to terms with.
Each day, I discover new triggers or interactions that are connected with my past. And each day, I go through the process of finding the source of bad feelings and bad memories.
Then I make a conscious choice to forgive people – to forgive whatever others might have done or said that triggered my bad feelings. I choose to forgive myself. And, with forgiveness, I let go of the negativity that I held. I let go of all the negative associations – of anger, bitterness, resentment, disappointment, fear and discomfort.
Out of all that I have done to improve myself over the years, forgiveness and letting go have been the most powerful processes of all.
From what I have seen, felt and experienced with others, I am pretty sure that there is nothing that can’t be forgiven. True forgiveness is a skill that can be learnt and applied to anything and everything.
You may throw up your arms in horror at this assertion. How can I forgive a terrible thing? But I ask you – what good does it do to not forgive? Who is hurt most by the darkness you keep inside?
When you start to understand that holding on does nothing but bring suffering to you and those you love, then it is time to take responsibility and do something about it.
The most incredible thing that I have learnt during this process is that the small life experiences, not just the big ones, can have a lasting impact over time. From the tiny isolated incidents when I was young, when a child said something hurtful to me in the playground, or the teacher who shouted at me – there were literally hundreds, perhaps thousands, of experiences that had remained undigested. Accumulating, and affecting me. Each one of those experiences had some ongoing impact on me in some way. Many of them, deeply damaging.
It hasn’t been easy. I have shed tears, raged with fury and spent a lot of time in uncomfortable memories. But by going down this road, I feel far more at peace now than I ever have before. The process is ongoing, but the power of forgiveness is a vital skill, making an amazing difference to my life, my relationships, and my world.
Letting go just has to be one of the best things I have ever done.
- What – or who – do you have to forgive?
- What have you held onto for long enough?
- How does holding onto something help you, in any way?
- What if you let go?
- How will your life improve?
The power to do this is in your hands.
Give yourself the gift of forgiveness this Christmas.
P.S. Share your forgiveness stories in the comments section below.
P.P.S. If you want some help on this read Letting Go by David Hawkins
P.P.P.S. Join me on our Big Adventure into the unknown this April.