I have a little ritual I use when groups or founders feel stuck. It is gentle, playful and strangely effective. It helps people move from personal tension to collective clarity. It lets a project speak for itself.
The idea
Instead of diving straight into strategy, I invite everyone to choose an object to represent the consciousness of the project or organisation. Something small. Something symbolic. A stone, a feather, a mug, a toy, a coin.
That object becomes the embodiment of the entity we are all trying to help. It is no longer you. It is no longer me. It is the project.
This separation does something important. It relieves the founder or team of the pressure to hold everything themselves. It also makes it easier to see where personal emotion is clouding a decision.
Gifts in, struggles out
Once the object is chosen and placed in the centre of the group, we start with a simple invitation.
“Offer your gifts to this project. But leave your struggles outside the circle.”
People name the strengths, skills and qualities they want to bring. Curiosity. Patience. Courage. Kindness. Insight. Whatever feels true.
Then they consciously let go of the stress, fear or confusion they may be carrying. This matters because personal struggle often blocks progress. When people hold too tightly, the project becomes entangled in their unresolved inner world.
Letting go, even for a moment, creates freedom. It opens space for something wiser to emerge.
Listening to what wants to happen
When the group has settled, we ask a simple question.
“If this project could speak, what would it ask of us?”
Because we have already released our personal struggles, people tend to respond from a deeper place. They hear possibilities that were hidden before. They notice what the project truly needs, not what their own fears demand.
Often, the project asks for something quite simple. More patience. More focus. A clearer boundary. A pause. A bold step. A shift in direction. Something that feels obvious in hindsight but previously impossible to name.
Why it works
The practice works because it reduces psychological noise. It gives people distance from their identity. It breaks hidden patterns of attachment. It allows the collective to access intuition without the clutter.
Most importantly, it brings everyone back to service. We are not trying to prove ourselves. We are not defending old ideas. We are listening. We are supporting the project to become what it wants to become.
A small ritual with big impact
Every time I use this process, something opens. People soften. Decisions become clearer. Next steps reveal themselves without force.
If you are wrestling with a project that feels stuck or emotionally heavy, try it. Choose an object. Invite the group. Offer your gifts. Leave your struggles at the door. And listen.
You might be surprised by what the project says when you finally let it speak.
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